So I’m curled up under my duvet today feeling just a little more than under the weather. I rarely do this and it does feel just a little self-indulgent, even though I’m feeling like crap.
As I’ve not got much else to do — well I have, but don’t feel much like doing it — I’ve been thinking about how many of us, me included, seem to feel that we always need to be ‘right’. And I’ve been wondering why?
The late Wayne Dyer (and I did have to double check that one as I do have a bad habit of killing people off before they’ve actually gone) said: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
There are so many of us who really can’t stand the idea of being wrong. We want to always be right, sometimes even risking ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for ourselves and for others.
Addicted to the Need to Be Right
Have you ever listened to someone complain that what they really want is impossible to achieve? If you’re paying attention to what they are saying, what you’ll realise is that they are giving you all sorts of ‘evidence’ to prove their point. If you suggest some other way of looking at it they will probably reply along the lines of: “Yes, yes… I hear what you are saying . . . BUT…”
When you hear someone say ‘yes, . . . but’ you can be pretty sure that they’re addicted to their need to be right.
But how can we let go of those ideas and beliefs that we have had reinforced thousands of times, those ideas and beliefs that trick our minds to sticking with a certain point of view? Well, we can start up giving up the idea that we have to be right…
If we can give up our need to be right, it blocks every avenue leading to the place the belief is expressing itself. It stops all justification and evidence gathering, and blocks the primary source of belief-feeding which is YOU!
Giving up your need to be right is more than just a way of thinking. It’s more of a far-reaching action that releases you from all those negative and self-destructive beliefs you have built up over the years.
Being right all the time is just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself Wayne Dyer’s question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?