Others treat us the way we invite them to treat us

Others treat us the way we invite them to treat us... --Barb H. Coping with stress is a lot more difficult than preventing it in the first place. If we think prevention, we can avoid a surprising number of stressful situations by thinking ahead and side-stepping. We don’t have to have lunch with difficult or …

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Imposter Syndrome

Oh dear, yes… it seems to have struck again… Now, I was thinking the other weekend while I was on my CBT training course that maybe I had perfectionist tendencies… but that somehow didn’t feel quite right to me… I do like to get things right obviously, but I’m not really that obsessed with being perfect.

So, if it’s not ‘perfectionism’, what is it that’s holding me back? What’s stopping me just going out and doing stuff? My friend Alicia Anderson really hit the nail on the head with her article today…

Here it is…

Alicia K. Anderson

When I flew to California last spring, I was headed to speak at a conference as an expert in my field, and then to attend meetings at Google on behalf of my employer.  I was flooded with what can only be described as Imposter Syndrome.  On that cross-continental flight, I read Brené Brown’s book I thought it was just me, but it isn’t , which is her first book about shame.

Sobbing in the middle seat between two strangers, I journaled and read my way through my shame, pausing to gratefully accept sips of water from the flight staff. It was awkward and embarrassing and utterly necessary. I stepped off the plane in San Francisco airport knowing that I was an expert in my field, and not just someone faking it.

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What’s The Worst That Could Happen?

Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius once wrote: Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness... Why on earth would you want to start the day with that thought in your head? Because Marcus didn't want to be surprised. He wanted to be prepared. Yes, we all know people …

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If You’re Good At Dealing With The Negative You Have More Time For The Positive

Grit... Resilience... Mental toughness... We hear a lot about them these days. But maybe we shouldn't. Why not? Because there have been good solutions to the underlying problem for about, oh, around 2,000 years? The ancient Stoic philosophers really knew what they were doing when it came to building mental toughness. In fact... What's the most effective …

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A Surprising (And Often Overlooked) Cause of Depression

That happy meal might not only be promising more than it can deliver — it might actually be making you feel worse... According to The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the United States. In 2014, around 15.7 million adults age 18 or older in the U.S. …

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